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25 BPD Characteristics of the Borderline Waif

25 BPD Characteristics of the Borderline Waif

Many of these were red-flags that I noticed early on in my relationship with my ex-girlfriend. If you have witnessed some of these behaviors in your relationship, I suggest you tread carefully.

March 30, 2014 | 24 Replies More
No Contact – The Urge to Contact After Breakup

No Contact – The Urge to Contact After Breakup

I quit smoking and slipped up when I felt I was my strongest. I feel strong for the first time since my breakup with my BPD ex-girlfriend, but I cannot break no contact.

February 3, 2011 | 19 Replies More
Why No Contact (NC) is Necessary After a BPD Breakup

Why No Contact (NC) is Necessary After a BPD Breakup

It’s not easy to cut someone off. It’s not easy to completely disappear on someone forever. It’s horribly difficult to silently walk away from someone you love and care for. However, if you have any desire to move on after a breakup with someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), you must go no contact.

December 26, 2010 | 93 Replies More
The Fear of Running Into the Ex

The Fear of Running Into the Ex

Some of the comments that came through today have inspired me to address our fear of running into our BPD-ex’s. Why are we so afraid of running into them again? What is it about them that causes our hearts to race at the mere thought of casually running into them? Perhaps it’s because we know […]

March 25, 2014 | 18 Replies More
Return of the Waif

Return of the Waif

It’s been quite a while since I’ve last posted. I hope that my lack of posting serves as a source of hope for you; you too will eventually get to a place where you put all the craziness behind you and get on with living. In time this whole experience is little more than a […]

August 1, 2012 | 14 Replies More
Two Years After My BPD Breakup

Two Years After My BPD Breakup

Here I am, two years after breaking up with my Borderline disordered ex-girlfriend. I never imagined that I would make it; that sounds so crazy now. For the first six months, I was an absolute wreck. There was nothing I could do to get away from it. The breakup was like a barbed-wire thread that […]

October 18, 2011 | 43 Replies More
Feeling Better or Feeling Familiar

Feeling Better or Feeling Familiar

I miss the comfort in being sad. – Kurt Cobain, Nirvana The lyric quoted above is from the Nirvana song, “Frances Farmer Will Have Her Revenge On Seattle” from their In Utero album.  I happened to hear the song on the radio today (I’ve heard it many times before) and the lyric struck me like […]

May 18, 2011 | 29 Replies More
Dreams of the BPD Ex-Girlfriend

Dreams of the BPD Ex-Girlfriend

I have read that many people have experienced persistent dreams of their ex-BPD partners. I have never experienced any memorable dreams or nightmares of my Borderline ex-girlfriend, not even in the initial emotionally-charged months post-breakup. It has been 18-months since the breakup now, and I just had my first dream about her the other night. […]

May 15, 2011 | 13 Replies More
Identifying Our Faulty Logic Through Self-Analysis

Identifying Our Faulty Logic Through Self-Analysis

Self-analysis is absolutely required after breaking up with a Borderline Personality Disordered individual. We need to recognize why we were so drawn to them in the first place and what kept us around through all the abuse. How did we maintain such a strong emotional connection for a person who continually showed us they were […]

May 9, 2011 | 33 Replies More
Healing and Acceptance

Healing and Acceptance

How do I get over this breakup?  I asked myself this question so many times for such a long time.  A year-and-a-half later, sometimes I still ask this question. I tried everything, for months on-end, but found no magic formula to extinguish the burning hurt and confusion that this breakup left me with.  I remember, […]

April 9, 2011 | 56 Replies More
The Hopeless BPD Waif – Part 1

The Hopeless BPD Waif – Part 1

The BPD Waif will do just about anything to avoid being alone.  This is one of the characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder in general.  Being alone leaves the Borderline, who has no real core identity, feeling terribly empty and abandoned.   Fear of abandonment is another BPD characteristic that is at the foundation of Borderline […]

March 26, 2011 | 23 Replies More
Push-Pull and The Borderline Waif

Push-Pull and The Borderline Waif

One characteristic of my relationship with a Borderline Waif that I didn’t catch on to until after the breakup, was the push-pull dynamic of the relationship. It wasn’t until I began reading about Borderline Personality Disorder that the pieces began to fall into place.

March 11, 2011 | 41 Replies More