The post-breakup pain, confusion, and depression was unlike anything I had ever experienced prior. I had a previous romantic relationship that lasted 15-years that fell apart and the heartbreak was not near what I endured after the BPD ex and I broke up. Why is that?
Why did you get involved with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder? Why did you try so hard to have a relationship with someone disordered? If we really want to make any progress in our healing, we must ask ourselves this question. We will never get the answers we seek from our Borderline ex’s; we can only seek these answers from within ourselves.
It’s not easy to cut someone off. It’s not easy to completely disappear on someone forever. It’s horribly difficult to silently walk away from someone you love and care for. However, if you have any desire to move on after a breakup with someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), you must go no contact.
Getting over any breakup can be a challenge. Getting over a breakup from a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be nothing less than pure hell.
There is one promising therapy that is an effective BPD treatment. The therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), developed by Marsha Linehan, has proven to be a successful BPD treatment. DBT is a treatment that combines Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with additional skills (derived from Buddhist practice) such as as mindfulness.