The BPD Waif will do just about anything to avoid being alone. This is one of the characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder in general. Being alone leaves the Borderline, who has no real core identity, feeling terribly empty and abandoned. Fear of abandonment is another BPD characteristic that is at the foundation of Borderline …
This was a completely random coincidence it seems. I had just dropped my child off at a sleepover party (this was in a town at least 30 minutes away from both my home and my ex’s). I was heading back home and pulled into the left-hand turn lane at a major intersection and there, two cars up next to me in the other turn lane was her car.
After our first meeting, I emailed her telling her I enjoyed meeting her and it was refreshing, nothing more. Did I want to see her again? I did, without a doubt, but I didn’t want to seem too eager. She responded that same day saying she too enjoyed our meeting. She also passed along her phone number and an invitation to meet again for coffee or dinner.
A less common, but equally insidious Borderline type is the waif. Below are some of the characteristics and qualities associated with the Borderline Waif.
This is my first post in what will be a series dedicated to the subject of Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD). As the title of this post states, my ex-girlfriend has BPD. If you are not familiar with the disorder, I earnestly suggest you read the DSM-IV description and diagnosis criteria.