Self-analysis is absolutely required after breaking up with a Borderline Personality Disordered individual. We need to recognize why we were so drawn to them in the first place and what kept us around through all the abuse. How did we maintain such a strong emotional connection for a person who continually showed us they were not worthy of our love.
It’s crazy, the force with which your heart can pull you. Sometimes a logical, reasoning mind is no match for a heart that yearns. Why is it so? What is heart (not in the biological sense), really? Heart is only emotion, but where does this emotion come from?
Without knowledge (mind-work), from where can emotions originate? They cannot come from nothing. Emotion is ALWAYS a reaction, secondary to knowledge. Emotions are generated from the internal analysis and processing of knowledge, logic, and reason. With no knowledge, we have no emotion. So, in an around-about way, emotions are formed from knowledge. I suppose this gives some validity to emotions… phew.
If I have the knowledge that my ex-girlfriend is truly no good for me, why then, am I still emotionally drawn to her. My first thought was the whole garbage-in, garbage-out theory. If I am emotionally drawn to her and that is bad, then my knowledge too, must be bad (or faulty at best). I believe, that this train-of-thought is generally accurate. This is why we must analyze our past relationships with a Borderline; we need to identify our faulty logic.