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Return of the Waif

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It’s been quite a while since I’ve last posted. I hope that my lack of posting serves as a source of hope for you; you too will eventually get to a place where you put all the craziness behind you and get on with living. In time this whole experience is little more than a …

Two Years After My BPD Breakup

Here I am, two years after breaking up with my Borderline disordered ex-girlfriend. I never imagined that I would make it; that sounds so crazy now. For the first six months, I was an absolute wreck. There was nothing I could do to get away from it. The breakup was like a barbed-wire thread that …

The Hopeless BPD Waif – Part 1

The BPD Waif will do just about anything to avoid being alone.  This is one of the characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder in general.  Being alone leaves the Borderline, who has no real core identity, feeling terribly empty and abandoned.   Fear of abandonment is another BPD characteristic that is at the foundation of Borderline …

BPD Breakup – My Lowest Point

I was sitting on the steps in my house this afternoon and in a flash, I remembered one of the lowest points I reached after breaking up with the girl who I believed was THE ONE for me. It was about two months after breaking up with my Borderline disordered ex-girlfriend that I hit my lowest point.

The Waif’s Empty Eyes

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One thing I noticed about my Borderline Waif ex-girlfriend is that her eyes almost always seemed lifeless and empty. It always seemed creepy to me. It is even noticeable in photos of her. She always appeared distant and alone, even in group shots when everyone was smiling (including her).

Self Hoovering Post Relationship

A hoover is when your Borderline ex makes an attempt to draw you back into the cycle (relationship) with them. Remember, you were once a source for them, and in difficulty, they may come back to you looking for more (sometimes a very long time after the relationship has ended). A self-hoover is when you break no contact or nc, and contact or check-up on your Borderline Disordered ex. That’s what I did.