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The Fear of Running Into the Ex

Some of the comments that came through today have inspired me to address our fear of running into our BPD-ex’s. Why are we so afraid of running into them again? What is it about them that causes our hearts to race at the mere thought of casually running into them? Perhaps it’s because we know …

Feeling Better or Feeling Familiar

I miss the comfort in being sad. – Kurt Cobain, Nirvana The lyric quoted above is from the Nirvana song, “Frances Farmer Will Have Her Revenge On Seattle” from their In Utero album.  I happened to hear the song on the radio today (I’ve heard it many times before) and the lyric struck me like …

The Hopeless BPD Waif – Part 1

The BPD Waif will do just about anything to avoid being alone.  This is one of the characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder in general.  Being alone leaves the Borderline, who has no real core identity, feeling terribly empty and abandoned.   Fear of abandonment is another BPD characteristic that is at the foundation of Borderline …

Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms

bpd symptoms of borderline personality disorder

What are the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder? There is no easy answer to this question. There are many behaviors and traits that can be attributed to BPD, but without a professional diagnosis, you will be hard-pressed to define the problem as BPD. What are some of the common symptoms a person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder displays?

Self Hoovering Post Relationship

A hoover is when your Borderline ex makes an attempt to draw you back into the cycle (relationship) with them. Remember, you were once a source for them, and in difficulty, they may come back to you looking for more (sometimes a very long time after the relationship has ended). A self-hoover is when you break no contact or nc, and contact or check-up on your Borderline Disordered ex. That’s what I did.